Who says...

Who says that I have to do anything according to others rules?
Who says I have to follow societys dictates?
Who says that I cannot be allowed my own opinion without judgment?
Who says I cant do what I want when I want...

Apparently everybody says...thats who!

I have no idea where im going with this so it just might be all over the place...bare with me:/

Many know how Jeff and I met and all that goes with it...Yet somehow Im still getting judged on how I went about things. Im sorry but are you me? Who the hell are you to judge what 'I' did, why I did, how I did...etc? YOU do not have to agree but you also do not have to put your two scents in.

Complete crap if you ask me.

I met Jeff ONLINE while STILL married to my now ex-husband...BUT We were LEGALLY separated and preparing for divorce. So NO I did not cheat. We werent even living together!
Sheesh...Society says I have to do things this ONE or be judged. Im sorry but I WILL do what makes ME happy not society!

My first marriage was over long before I walked out. No I did not see the need to blast my marital issues all over facebook. I kept things private as they should be. I announced my relationship with Jeff because I was/am happy!

Yup we did move fast...nope I do not regret it. Best decision I ever made!

Im happier, my kids are happier and we are having a baby together who is more loved than I ever thought possible.

Jeff and I met in August and moved in together in September...Ask anyone who knows me WELL...ask anyone who knows Jeff personally and ALL will tell you theyve never seen us happier.
We have both been married and divorced...we didnt JUMP into this blindly. We KNEW what we were getting into.

Theres no way in hell I would have moved in with a man I "barely knew"...with two kids and all. I KNEW him. I KNEW his heart. I TRUSTED my GUT and MY HEART. Believe it or not. I did NOT move in with Jeff for ANY reason other than I loved and still love him.

I had him checked out...background and Sex offender checks...I followed my MOMMY gut too.
I was and am not stupid. I was never afraid to be alone. I had a job lined up, school ready for Caleb, was on TWO apartment waitlists and had a sitter all ready to go when I met Jeff. I had my SHIT together believe it or not.

People have judged me through and through and whats more disappointing is many of them were people I considered friends...now they are simply acquaintances. I was harassed, deleted and blocked on facebook over MY choices and even sent angry texts!

When you do NOT know the whole story you should not assume...Why is it so hard for others to ASK and not ASSUME...why I did what I did. Why assume and think so little of me?

The faith others had in me or lack therof I should say hurt more than others will ever know...Here we are nearly a YEAR later and BAM...still happy! Still no regrets! Still dont wish Id done things any other way!

I did what I felt was best. I listened to my heart. I followed the signs. Ya know this MAY sound crazy but I believe 100% that Jeff and I were put together by unseen forces. Some way somehow we were MEANT to be and I believe that!

Living within our means...

First I just want to say that this post is all about ME...so if YOU take anything personally that is your issue not mine!!!


This post is about me realizing what its like to live within our means...OUR meaning Jeff and I.
Jeff and I have spent A LOT of time talking about budgets, vehicles, houses...etc. What we have BOTH realized is we want as little of payments on things as possible...meaning as little DEBT as possible.

We will of course have a house payment as its VERY hard to buy a home without financing...LOL. However we have both realized that we CAN and WILL go without a car payment. That means we will never have a brand new fancy car. I am slowly making peace with that as I DO like shiny things...LOL.  However I understand.

Having a car payment isnt a necessity its a want. You can have a vehicle without one which means getting something older and im ok with that. We plan on purchasing an older excursion say year 2003. Its big roomy and drives well. All that we NEED. Wants sometimes have to get put on the back burner. Im not knocking anyone who has a new car or a payment just saying we are CHOOSING to go without.

Weve also decided to go a different route with a home. Instead of buying a traditional home we are going to go with a modular home that LOOKS like an actual home. Will have a foundation and everything! We both dont like the look traditional manufactured homes but are willing to go with modular type instead. We want to put it on land and have a small farm.

We only have one credit card and very few bills aside of that...Dish, Verizon, ATT, and internet. Thats all we have for now...LOL. Moving means taking on rent and utilities a luxury weve been able to forgo for awhile now. Good thing is though we will be living with the inlaws till our home is available for move in.

The house we will be renting is literally next door to my in-laws! Plus rent is VERY affordable. Which means we will be able to continue to live within our means and quite possibly save money which we havent been able to do on Jeffs current pay.

All in all we will be better off financially with this move and new job. Im excited!